I swear, breaking the news of becoming vegan to my Italian granny was scarier than watching a horror movie at 3 AM, by myself, during a storm. You see, Italians care more about food and wine than most of the rest of the world, and, let’s be honest here, is my grandmother feeds you until you roll out of her door?
Seriously though. I thought that was the scariest thing ever until I told my parents (and rest of the family) we were going to have a vegan wedding. Not even one person took me seriously to start with. Then, the sentiments changed into total disbelief. I dare I doing something like this to our guests and family. The Family!!! “what are they going to think of us?” right…
Lesson number 1: “don’t tell your family (Italian or not)”. After this John and I thought it was going to be much better not to tell anyone full stop. And so we did. We sat down with our caterer and designed a decadent menu that would have left anyone in aw and distracted from the fact that there was no meat, dairy, fish or eggs. Oh, and yes, we didn't use the word “vegan” anywhere. We did it to test our guests. And this was what we came up with:
We chose a buffet style meal to make sure everyone had a good choice of dishes to pick from. We felt that a sit-down meal could have been too restrictive for our guests that weren’t exactly aware of what was going on. The display was incredible, and everything tasted amazing. So amazing all the guests but two haven’t even realised it was an entirely vegan meal. Now you may be worried that “uncle James” might have missed his venison with jus? That didn't happen because he was too busy stuffing his face with pizza. Everyone loved the meal, and I achieved my goal of the “vegan food” not to be the centre of attention and the main topic of the day.
I know how difficult it is to organise a wedding and keep everyone happy, but my suggestion to you is to not compromise who you are and what you want for what you think others will appreciate. With a bit of research (well, a lot of it really) and the right suppliers, you can achieve your dream vegan wedding and not disappoint your meat eater family and friends.